My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

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My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by Ali123 » Wed Aug 30, 2017 1:55 am

Hi all , first time writing on here so please be patient with me on replys and stuff!
My partner is currently on the Suboxone program after having a opioid dependency issue (heroin also) and i am so proud of his progress! He is a calm and collective person now and saved a huge amount of time and money.
Though i am proud of him i am concerned with his lack of sex drive. He gets erections but has no sexual intentions what so ever! We use to be very sexual with each other and this is all changed. I understand its not me but its hard for a women to cop this type of rejection over and over again. We have spoken to the pharmacist about it and apparently its within normal on Suboxone. As he has only been on it for 6 months i dont want him to go off of it and relapse and i do think he is better with it but a women needs some sex with her man! I am literally open for suggestions from men and women with similar experiences that have tried something that helped! i have heard viagra and what not but dont want him to force it for me. Has anyone tried anything with a partner who is on Suboxone to release some sexual urges and feelings? PLEASE HELP!
BTW TO CLARRIFY THINGS I AM A LOVING PARTNER FEMALE AND MY PARTNER IS A MALE
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE! :) :)

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Post by rule62 » Wed Aug 30, 2017 5:33 pm

A lot of us men went through the same thing. The sex drive just kind of up and disappeared. Have him go ask his doctor to do a blood test to check his testosterone levels. Mine were low so my doctor prescribed Androgel. There are many other products out there including a shot he can get. It took roughly two weeks for my sex drive to return. Viagra has nothing to with desire. Trust me, his desire for you will come roaring back.

Congratulations on his recovery. Is he just doing this on his own or did he join some kind of support group to keep the cap on his addict brain? Some do okay on their own but addiction is a tricky little back stabber. If he ever gets off the Suboxone he'll need something to fall back on. Or maybe not. We are all different. See if you can get him to join this forum. This is a recovery forum BTW.

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Post by Michelle F. » Wed Aug 30, 2017 8:42 pm

Hi Ali123, Welcome! I am a woman on suboxone and have experienced the same thing. I am older and have just finished menopause so my hormones have been all over the place! My husband had heart surgery and that slowed him down, for a while! I can say, and it does sound cliche, keep the line of communication open. We have found other ways to stay close and that helps. You and your husband will get through this if you talk about it! Good luck!

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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by Markveks » Wed Apr 25, 2018 7:10 am

You should talk to your husband and convince him to have a treatment. Whatever the case you should know his weak spots and ways to persuade him. Besides, you should create warm and friendly vibe for your husband to talk free and honestly. Please understand that ED for him it is also hard load to carry. And good ways to deal with ED without doctor are men's Kegel exercises and some pills. My husband was taking aurogra. Wish you much luck and patience.

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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by Jess1208 » Thu Apr 26, 2018 7:08 am

I am a 26yr old female and have been on suboxone for almost 4 years now. I am down to 1mg/day but my sex drive has never been the same ever since I got off drugs. Whether I was on 16mgs of suboxone or 2mgs, it has always been the same, pretty much a nonexistent sex drive. I feel I should be in my prime! but all desire is gone.

I have a loving partner whom I trust with my life but sometimes that just isnt enough based on our past and what we have been through as drug addicts... It's easy for us to blame suboxone but for me personally I think a huge part of it has to do with how I was sexually abused repeatedly during active addiction (and how I allowed it to happen), also engaging in prostitution acts, and the negative feelings I have attached with any type of sexual activity because of those things... I get flashbacks often and it is not a good feeling. I dont know what your husband/significant other has been through but please try to be understanding, whatever the case may be.

It could be as simple as low testosterone. I would encourage him to get checked out by his doctor, if that is the problem I believe it is a pretty easy fix and he will feel loads better once he is treated properly. (........"loads"....... :shock: :lol: )

Knowing that I cant give my S/O the love he (and I) deserves kills me. He is 40 but has the sex drive of an 18 year old boy (LOL) so it makes me feel extremely guilty that I cannot give him the sex life that we both deserve as a loving, exclusive couple. It is depressing and doesn't help the situation when you are carrying guilt.

Good luck, just know that is probably isnt easy on him either!!
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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by rule62 » Thu Apr 26, 2018 10:43 am

Jess, you need to address those issues. There is no need for a 26 year old woman to go through what you're dealing with. See a therapist and or maybe a psychiatrist for the right kind of physical and mental help. There may be some medication to help improve your sex drive while taking Suboxone.

For men, all we need is some testosterone and we're good to go. I do not know about women. That's why I say to go seek some help. You need to be able to heal from the trauma and also regain your desire. A healthy desire. You and your S/O deserve it.

It breaks my heart to read your story. There has to be some kind of treatment to help you. All we can do is recommend you go find it.
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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by TeeJay » Sat Apr 28, 2018 10:34 pm

This can easily be addressed by a dose reduction. For me, sexual side effects for sub kicked in when my dose was over 8mg buprenorphine, and 40mg methadone.

I personally believe the minimum dosage required to keep the cravings at bay is the ideal "sweet spot".

Good luck!

PS: Sex drive comes back with a vengeance once a person stops their Suboxone / methadone / heroin / oxy / whatever. Unlike steroids, opioid induced sexual dysfunction is reversible.

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Post by Jess1208 » Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:43 am

Thanks Rule for your sweet and caring reply. It is not fun to feel this way at my age, despite my past and health. I have been receiving psychological care for a few years now. But it hasnt helped much with my guilt over things that happened in the past during my using days and self-esteem/self-image issues because of those things.

Since lowering my dose to 1mg, my anxiety has shot through the roof! (I noticed an big jump in anxiety around 3 mgs). Also living with chronic debilitating migraines, chronic pain is a huge factor also and it really puts a big rain cloud over my entire life. (Most days I feel Eeyore is my spirit animal.. :lol: )

I know for me that living with pain definitely affects my sex drive, as it affects EVERY aspect of my life unfortunately.

But I try to remain hopeful and even though it is extremely depressing to live in pain like this, I never give up on the thought that some day I will feel better! Im working with an amazing pain management doctor who has recently introduced the idea of having surgery to get a Spinal Nerve Stimulator implanted into my spine (which would stay there for the rest of my life!!). Hes the only doctor that has given me real progress. But so far everything has been extremely temporary and any treatments I have had always wear off fairly quickly, not to mention they are all ridiculously expensive, even after insurance agrees to chip in)

My insurance is terrible and of course doesn't feel any of my treatments are 'necessary' because they dont want to pay for it... Just one more reason I hate health insurance companies in America.. but enough with my rant. I know this got wayy off topic & I apologize!!!

Thanks for letting me vent!
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Post by CouchPotato32 » Sat Nov 10, 2018 1:56 pm

I've been trough this and i know people who took suboxone as well but it seems like not all of us who's taking it are facing this side effect. My doc sad to me that somehow my body almost stopped to produce testosterone so that was the reason of my ED. He did let me to consume suboxone and he also prescripted me some erection pills, something like 3w dot viagra coupons dot net / viagra-without-prescription and actually worked for a while. Than my kidneys and liver told me in a very "gentle" way that there is too much pills for a one. But it's actually worked for a period of time.

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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by cristoph126 » Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:37 pm

Hello everyone. This one is for all the females out here: how is your life is going on while using suboxone? My wife is trying to quit using it and I can see how she is getting more passive and mostly depressed. I'm trying to cheer her up by taking her to the date just like the old times. I also bought her a tablet so she could watch some Netflix while resting in the backyard. I clearly understand that she is going through the hard times now but I just want to bring some brightness into her life. We have sex only after she uses female sildenafil. I can live without it but I really want her to desire me naturally. I love her and I'm really looking forward to your advice.
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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by jennjenn » Wed Nov 14, 2018 9:48 am

Hello and welcome christoph!

How is your wife trying to stop using suboxone? Is she tapering or is she just stopping abruptly? Is she under a doctors care and does this doctor know that she’s trying to stop? There’s many questions because if she’s just stopped without a slow taper (assuming her dose isn’t in the micro of doses) she could be in withdrawal which can cause depression and different physical symptoms. It’s definitely not recommended to just abruptly stop this medication. Even stopping at a lower type dose like an example of 2mg, even though it’s still a lower sounding dose, something like 2mg is still a pretty high dose to just immediately stop at. That’s just a few reasons why your wife could be having a rough time, since I don’t know all the details I’m only throwing things out there :)
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Re: My partner and his lack of sex drive on suboxone!

Post by TeeJay » Fri Jan 03, 2020 6:01 pm

This MAY help some guys who experience this issue.

A couple of weeks ago I saw a holistic psychiatrist (yeah I know it's a contradiction. She suggested some supplements that could potentially help with mood stability and a couple of things she said would reduce liver / kidney damage from my mood stabilising medications.

They were:

- Fish oil (for mood).
- NAC powder (for mood and to prevent kidney harm from my lithium).
- Zinc (she said guys should take this anyway because there's much less zinc in vegetables than there was decades ago due to modern farming).
- TAURINE (to prevent my Depakote from causing liver harm).

After a couple of days my libido increased a lot. It's possible the fact I'm due for my next buprenorphine depot in just 2 days and my levels a low might be playing a role. That being said all the above supps are quite safe. After some research, it's only Zinc and Taurine that influence sexual function so those two might be enough to make you and your partner happy again.

I take 1 zinc tablet at night and 1gm taurine morning and night.

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